Holidays

When we were first married, we initially agreed to split the holidays to every other year and while Husband tried to support me on this, his mother always found a way to have us for the holidays every year anyway. So it became holiday afternoons with my family and the evenings with his which (kind of) worked out. Apparently, this also is a problem now. How do married folks (with kids) split holidays? I used to love the holidays. Really, I did. I hope when my children grow old, I don't make them feel this way.