Saturday, November 27, 2010

Working Mom vs Stay-at-Home Mom

I have friends that are both working moms and stay at home moms. You ask a working mommy and they will say "I miss being home with my baby. I feel like I am missing out on so much". You ask a mom who is home with the kiddies and they will say "I miss the adult interaction. I feel like my entire day consists of cleaning bottles and changing diapers and trying to keep the house in one piece". As a stay at home mom myself who has always been a workaholic prior to mommyhood, I feel the effects of the latter statement to the core. I miss the hustle and bustle, the having a goal at the beginning of a day, the having somewhere to be, and yes, I very much miss the conversations that go beyond words consisting of "bottle, diaper, please don't touch that" and the like. However, if you ask me what I would do differently, I wouldn't have an answer for you because I wouldn't change anything. I cannot imagine leaving my baby in someone else's care and it has very little to do with my need to micromanage details (surprisingly). In staying home, I experience her first everything. I was here to see the first time she rolled herself over, crawled, took her first tentative steps with her walker, her first tooth cutting through, her first smile, her first belly-full laugh. I get to experience the different person she is becoming everyday. While it does not change the fact that I miss being an individual, it makes every moment of my decision to be home with my baby the right one for me. Right now. My goal is to one day re-claim a small piece of my individuality, but for the moment, I am mommy with no regrets.
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