So apparently I've offended someone. I've yet to figure out how and why, but with that still in question, I don't care if you spank your child, I don't care if you don't. I don't care if you scream, yell, scold, give the silent treatment and ignore your screaming children or smother them with love for misbehaving. Maybe you step outside in your bra and panties in the cold to snap yourself out of your own frustration (this probably does not apply to dads - and if it does, well, let's not go there). My "issue" mentioned has nothing to do with anyone else's kid. It has something to do with mine. In fact, it had more to do with the hard time she was giving me at nap/night times and less to do with this other stuff, but here we are.
I love my child as much as the next parent and yes, I'll be pissed if your kid walks up to mine and hits her or takes her toy and makes her cry especially if it's a neighborhood kid I don't know. In much the same way, should it be my kid who hits your child or makes him or her cry by stealing her toy, she will be punished in some form and your child will get his or her apology AND the toy back. Will it always work? Probably not, but that's my goal. To teach my daughter that it's NOT okay to hit, it's NOT okay to be mean, it's NOT okay to bully and it's NOT okay to make other kids cry. She's a little young for all that right now, but it doesn't stop me from trying to teach her "nice nice" now. If you're okay with your son or daughter hitting, biting, taking things, and making others cry, well, while I don't care what form of discipline you choose or don't choose, I'd just rather my daughter not be on the receiving end of that behavior. I don't see how my feeling this way should offend anyone. I started this out ready to apologize, but I don't really think I'm sorry. Yep, no, I'm not sorry at all. I don't ever want my kid to be on the receiving end of a bully, but I also don't want her to be one either. I don't know why, in anyone's mind, that should be offensive. Are YOU okay with my kid smacking yours around only to see my approving - even applauding - it? I doubt it. Maybe your kid never misbehaves, but mine does. She DOES hit, she DOES take things, and she DOES yell and cry when things don't go her way - amongst other 15 month old stuff, and while it is normal, it is NOT okay and I do what I can to keep her from doing it. Try is all I can do. The question wasn't whether or not TO discipline. It wasn't even a question of the "right" or "wrong" way to discipline. It was "how" and I was referring to HOW do I get her to stop fighting me to go to sleep without taking it out on my stupid coffee machine for running out of water and HOW do I discipline her so I keep her nice and healthy because her behavior at times calls for the exact opposite.
P.S. she's been sleeping fine since the post because she likes to mess with mommy's head.
Good jeebus. I didn't really think anyone (aside from the obvious handful) read this stuff and to take it so personally, I should be honored - except I'm not. I don't like to offend people, but I also don't like being told that I'm wrong when I'm not. Granted, I'm wrong - A LOT! However, when it comes to my kiddy, I very rarely am. I'll bet my last shiny penny (I'm only a quarter-employed - that shiny penny's all I've got!) that every mommy knows their baby best. So let's leave it at that because it's getting late (or early) and I've yet another day to tackle. Giddy Up!